I find I have doubt lingering within me during everything I do in life. I don't think there is one thing I go into without having doubt. Is it normal to have constant doubt? Can we be 100% sure of at least one thing in our lives? I don't know if doubt is a good sign or a constant distraction telling me to stop and get out of whatever it is I'm doing.
If I weigh all the good things against the bad things, the good things out weigh the the bad things. So, should I consider not listening to the negative and continue to think about the positive? Does the negative have to be present in order to keep you on your toes and your head grounded?
If I didn't have doubt I don't think I would try things in the first place. I believe second guessing myself pushes me to try harder and continue to pursue that which is meant to be.
For example, a relationship that has all the makings of something truly special. The excitement, fun, love, and compassion are all in full force. But, the doubt continues to come and go every so often. It is not constant doubt every day or every week, but it does fill my head every so often. This doubt has me questioning the seriousness of the relationship. Like I said, I am never 100% sure about anything I venture head first into. All the good things in the relationship far exceed the doubt which has me constantly thinking about what it is I should do.
Do I fight the doubt or should I give up and give in to the doubt? Everything is incredible except for this doubt that fills up inside me, but then vanishes when time goes on and I stop to think how much this person contributes to the happiness within my life. If one thing doesn't seem right, do I listen to it or do I gather the insurmountable positives and continue to think that his doubt is just a normal human characteristic so I don't get my head lost in the clouds? Everything worth having is worth fighting for.
Do I let go of the best thing that has happened to me because of "doubt"?
I sure hope not.
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Can I ever relate? I like this post, so honest with great questions. Any time I try something new or I'm really excited about something doubt seems to creep in. If I haven't learned anything else I know that everyone emotion is an opportunity to learn something. I believe every emotion, even doubt is there to help you to be your best. The problem is when we let the emotion "become" us and we don't learn, we just react.
ReplyDeleteI relation to my relationship with hubby I've experienced doubt off and on. When I tried to kill or ignore doubt I think it stunted our growth. Sometimes passion are high and you need doubt to slow down so that your relationship mature as you bond. I've doubted his love for me and that allowed me to figure out what I needed from a relationship and helped us develop our communication skills.
Then sometimes I've given into doubt. When we ere just friends I doubted romance could work for us, so I would not entertain the thoughts and feeling that I had. I pushed him away as I sent mixed signals and got scared that he was not interesting in a friendship with me. If I continued to let doubt run my life without putting the burden of proof on doubt I would have the thing that I am most grateful for now.
Doubt and worry are a tool but you have to use them and not them use you. If the new thing does not work out, you would had fun will it lasted and you will learn from it so that when your ready when destiny comes knocking.